My oldest, L, has been making the wrong choices all day. When he is supposed to focus on one task, a task he has been performing for over a year, he is distracted, not once, but several times. When I take away a toy, requiring him to earn it back, he still finds a way to not listen, and becomes distracted again and again.
He has this tendency to push all of my buttons, truly all of them. Both of them are not allowed to play with mystikman's ipod or his phone. Again and again we tell them there will be consequences to playing with these items.
A day that L has been on my very last nerve, instead of practicing his piano, he was hiding, playing his father's phone. I am beyond what to do. We take away privileges, we take away toys, we threaten to take more away, I ask him what is he going to do in order to make it up... NOTHING WORKS!
I am so disappointed in him and me. I am beyond anger at this point. I don't understand why he continues to make bad choices, time and time again. I mean really, what is it?
When I was little I never wanted to be punished, as it meant the wooden paddle. That was enough of a deterrent for me. Not spanking in this house is such a challenge and I admit I slip now and then. But I don't get it. I don't understand why he continues to do things he knows will get him in trouble.
Today I took away a toy, had him figure out what he will do for me, took away another privilege of having a friend over, then took away the privilege to set up for Easter. Just now I put some of his lesser toys in the garbage and growled my neck into soreness. I am fed up with his choices, really fed up. I ask kindly, I show him, I remind him to be focused... keep his nose in his own business and focus. I am just so fed up.
Any suggestions out there?