26 July, 2010

Hunting

Well for houses that is.  We are in the process of finding a new home.  Originally, we thought it might be best to rent, as in a 3 year option.  But after finding our way back to Ohio, it now seems a better option to buy. 

With so many houses on the market, you would think it would be easy to find a house, for a great price.  Not so.  Due to the variables, safety, commute, taxes, resale, market time, community amenities, lot size, square footage, condition of the home and so on, it has been difficult to find just the right one, we are willing to commit to. 

We have been looking for 7 weeks going on our 8th.  We have physically be in 50 plus homes.  In and out, up and down it seems.  I have seen how people live, or have lived and each home tells a story, some good, but what we are finding is mostly bad.  The downturn in the economy hit hard this area of Northeast Ohio.  Sad to see it so beaten up actually. 

The silver lining is all of this is that we are finally finding a common thread of what we want, where we want to be and what we think a fair price for a home is pending all the variables.  We have actually put 2 offers in already.  The 1st was rejected and the 2nd, was just countered.  Until we counter back, we are going to make certain we know our final price, so another day of house hunting. 

Again, all of this is a process and when you put numbers on paper, things start to become black and white.  Emotions play into this very little.  The first home we bought was emotional and this home will be a business move, something solid and well thought out. 

I think I am getting it... I am growing up, maturing and making better decisions - like a real adult!  WOW, I feel like a real adult and I am *cough* over 35!  Yikes!  Not telling how much over.
Happy days to all of you!

23 July, 2010

Another Birthday

This week, I also celebrated a birthday.  Not a "biggie" but another year passed none the less.  As mystikman works crazy hours and days off are never planned more than a week out, we always do things last minute.  When it looked like we may have a couple night off in a row, I was able to have the boys go with my parents for the night and thought that we could have an adult evening.  But when you are the planner in your family, nothing like that happens unless you plan it.  Now I know this, and I shouldn't be upset, but I was.  Mystikman didn't think to plan anything for me.  I make it very easy on him and only ask that I have a gourmet meal out, which is not hard for him to do since he is in the business.  He has access to making this happen for very little and it truly makes me happy to be catered to with fine wine and food.  A nice evening out with my hubbie is really all I wanted for my bday.  Now did this happen?  No.

Not only did it not happen, but we ended up spending the evening with his friends who I had suspicions about, which mystikman denied.  Well my suspicions were proven true and I found myself dreading our time out with his friends.  They make choices to live their lives differently than we do and when you philosophically chose things so opposite, it is hard for me to find commonalities or a desire to know more and forge a friendship.  So here I am, out with my hubbie's friends at a bar where the beer was very expensive, (read here, expensive..we are trying to save money for a downpayment on a house), and the music was loud and we didn't have a gourmet quiet meal together.  Fun, for who?  NOT ME!  Did I forget to mention it was MY birthday? 

After it was all said and done, I didn't even get a card.  Mystikman didn't take my children to sit down and draw me a card on some plain white paper. 

Why is it so hard for him to figure out that there are 2 days out of the year that he needs to put a little effort into?  Mother's day until the boys are old enough... our anniversary and my birthday....

Is this what I get for having some really special birthdays in my lifetime thus far?  Are we only allowed so many?  Well this ranks up there with the day I scrubbed our new apartment down, before we moved in... yucky. 

Wish for a better one next year!  He has all year to plan for it! 

05 July, 2010

Turning 8

This past weekend, my oldest L, celebrated his 8th birthday.  8!  I remember the night before he was born.  I put on makeup, did my hair and we checked into the hospital at midnight.  I was being induced due to a small complication and we were praying for the best.  11:24 am the next day, he was out in as little as 4 pushes:  crying with arms and legs outstretched for anyone to hold.  I knew then, he was born for the world,  not necessarily for me.  He was going to be loud and out there, ready to do whatever.  He was a wirey, skinny little thing, adoringly referred to as a chicken, by mystikman.

8 years ago...

Today he is still wirey and skinny, loud and smiles all the time.  He is emotional, creative and ready for the world.  I was right thinking he was for the world.  He really doesn't require me, but likes the fact that I am there.

I am very honored that he chose me to be his momma.  I love him dearly and pray for him every night.  I want his life to be full of love, laughter and abundance.  I wish for him to know nothing of sadness.  He has moments of utter sweetness, grace and deep love that blow me away sometimes.  He lights up my heart and always has.  He is now my 8 year old son..... I am still awed by the miracle of life and how we come into the world and how we grow. Mystikman and I often look at each other in amazement.  How could an act of love, create such a miracle an entire life force?  (Okay I know all about the birds and the bees, but still, it is a marvel)!

I am a momma to an 8 year old son.  WOW and now I am tearing up....enough said.  Happy Birthday L, you are my baby and always will be, I love you to the moon and back.