13 February, 2009

Parenting Disaster

Okay, the past couple of days have been a parenting disaster. Instead of being the enlightened momma I envision, I have turned into a mean, growling, yelling ugly monster. The boys have been on my nerves, not listening being the main culprit.

The discipline has been a very scattered process in this house, ranging from time outs, taken things away physical and on physical items, dare I say spanking, tasks given for misbehavior, star charts and discipline charts... I am over all of it!

It seems no matter what method we try to employ, the boys are continually finding ways to turn every stinking thing into play mode... of course getting off track of what needs to happen and then venturing into not listening mode. How does one teaching listening???

Listening is such a valuable skill. They will need to listen to others if they hope to have relationships with others. They will need to listen if they hope to ever hold a job or attempt a career. They will need to listen if they have children so they understand their children's needs.

Respect is another valuable lesson, respecting what the momma says or wants. If they just could understand and trust me, I explain to them over and over and over again...., they would be able to have more play time and more fun. But there are certain things in life where play is not part of the picture or there are other tasks at hand.

I feel my entire days are full of me yelling at them to listen to me. We never seen to accomplish what needs to be done and if we do, it takes all darn day!

I am fed up and just want to cry at how useless this venture seems right now.


Ally said...

Big hugs. Take a deep breath, and don't be so hard on yourself. You'll figure it out.

Amy said...

I'm with Ally. Deep breath. You're in a rough patch. IT WILL NOT BE LIKE THIS FOREVER. (That was for emphasis - not yelling, sorry.) Trust yourself and the work you've done to parent them so far and give yourself time-outs when you need them. The best way to teach them to listen is to set an example.

Hang in there. You're not alone.

Anonymous said...

A good quote to keep in mind is this "children are born feral and have to be domesticated to make them into respectable humans." Just do your best, they'll grown out of it.